Parents worry about who will care for their adult children with autism
The Autism News | English

By CYNTHIA HUBERT | McClatchy Newspapers
As a chubby, smiling baby boy, Marlon Barton delighted everyone around him. Now that he is a strapping young man who flaps his hands and makes odd noises, no one knows quite what to do with him.
Barton is 26 years old, 6 feet 2, 283 pounds and acutely autistic. He was diagnosed when the condition was considered unusual and when doctors offered little hope to parents of the children who suffered from it.
His mother, Pearlie Barton, cares for her son around-the-clock now in their south Sacramento home. “He scares people, even though he usually is not aggressive,” she said.
“Being large, African American and autistic does not work in his favor,” either socially or in programs designed to help people with disabilities, she said.
Autism, a neurodevelopmental disorder that affects language and social skills, was relatively rare when Barton was born. Since then, for reasons that are unclear, diagnoses have skyrocketed and the condition is surfacing in an estimated 1 in 150 children.
As a tidal wave of these youngsters moves toward adulthood with complex behavioral and medical problems, society is largely unprepared.
“We don’t have the programs. We don’t have the research,” said Dr. Robert Hendren, director of the UC Davis M.I.N.D. Institute. “We have this very large adult population of autistics coming along, and we don’t know how to deal with them. We just haven’t come to terms with it.”
But the futures of hundreds of thousands of autistic people in America cannot be ignored for long, said Hendren and others.
In California, regional centers will be serving more than 50,000 autistic people of all ages by the end of this year, according to the state Department of Developmental Services. If the trend continues, that number will grow to 70,000 by June 2012.
By 2013, according to the department, more than 4,000 teenagers with autism will reach adulthood, and by 2018 the agency will be serving more than 19,000 adults with the condition. Nationally, the number of autistic children expected to need extensive adult services by 2023 is about 380,000 people, and the bill for caring for them will be in the billions of dollars.
Care providers are just beginning to grapple with how to deal with the surge, even as governments slash social services to cope with budget deficits.
“The financial impact will be huge,” said Hendren. “Many, many people will be living impaired lives, and where are they going to go? Who will take care of them? The challenge will fall largely to family members. As those parents age, they are asking, ‘Who is going to take care of my autistic child after I am gone?’ “
It is a question that haunts Pearlie Barton, 58, and her friend Helen Richard, 78, who also has an adult autistic son.
“Right now, every time I leave Marlon out of my sight I’m taking a chance,” said Barton, recalling how once, when she looked away for a moment, her son wandered into a women’s restroom. “I have to watch him every minute. But I’m not going to be around forever.”
Research focuses on children
Some people with autism, including Ray Richard, can speak and care for themselves with limited supervision. Some are able to work, if employers are willing to adapt to their limited social skills. Others, like Marlon Barton, are entirely dependent on caretakers and family members. Day programs, job opportunities and housing options geared specifically toward adults with autism are limited.
“There’s really nothing out there to meet the needs of these guys, even guys who are as highly functional as Ray,” Richard said. Her son is 43 years old and has Asperger’s syndrome, a milder form of autism.
“Ray can type 40 words per minute,” Richard said. “He has a great vocabulary. He has a photographic memory, but I can’t get him a job because you can’t really teach socialization. It’s terrible.”
Life for her son might have been better, she said, had he had access to training programs when he was younger.
Hundreds of millions of dollars a year are now devoted to research around autism. But the vast majority of studies and treatment are focused on children, whose brains are still developing and who, with early intervention, have a good chance to develop speech, social, and vocational skills.
Source: http://www.centredaily.com/living/story/1406561.html
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A very moving, poignant article. Sadly this situation is all too common. Depending on where you live, there is relatively good provision for children with autism. However, as soon as they reach adulthood they are left high and dry by the system. All too often it falls on parents to give up their jobs in order to look after their adult offspring, plunging families into financial hardship and increasing the emotional strain even further.
People with autism – even the most severe combination of autism and learning disabilities – have skills of real benefit to employers. All they need is the right support. At HOPE (www.helphope.org.uk), we campaign for greater provision of social enterprises and supportive employment opportunities. Adults with autism need the opportunity to work in order to increase their self-confidence and develop their talents. 40 years ago today we put a man on the moon. It isn’t rocket science to provide the right kind of employment opportunities so that adults with autism can live with dignity, support and understanding.
Rebecca Leachi
worry now and he aint there yet
Melanie Mccann
same here love
Lisa Sheedy Eoff
my son is 17 years old and i worry all the time.
Kimberly Jackson Agostino
I worry and he’s only 3!
Mylene A Branham
My son is 13,, and i have worried about this since he was diagnosed at 3y/o; everyone in my family has let me know that they WILL NOT be taking him in
Heather Hawk
As a single parent I also worry what would happen to him if something happened to me now. My family as well has said they can not handle him.
Lily Montoya
Wow. I can’t believe how many families are so heartless. I have always worried about my son as well. But I am happy to say that I know that either my mother in law or my brother in law would take care of him ifmy husband and I would pass away.
Christina Hayes
if anything happens to my parents im taking my 13 year old bro on regardless
Heather Hawk
I don’t think its heartless, just honest. They are unable to provide him the help and support he needs. I do it alone on my own without any respite, they never could
Mylene A Branham
He is the love of my life as well as his 22y/o brother…but his brother has had to “deal” with it since he was 9 and he is burnt out.
I am a single parent also, no respite…no assistance except for his SSI; BUT his father couldn’t handle the disabilities; so the ramifications for that for him was jail time—so i’d prefer that they NOT take him in if they have no interest in it…hopefully, some family will want to take him in…someone with patience that is “willing” to deal with the daily life…i am glad they told me up front they could not deal with it..altho i raised four of my brothers kids for almost 5 years. But it would be wonderful to have family members that would be willing to do this. Shoot, they stay as far away as they can as it is…no visits, no reprieves, no nothing…which is all well and good—we make our own choices in life and other people can/cannot deal with it…i chose to “accept” it
Debbie Gies
As a mom with 2 young adult sons , this is a daily concern. Since my sons father passed away in 1996, I am the only parent left to advocate for them both. It’s ok while I am alive but what will happen when I die?
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Jo SouthgateMy son is 6 and I constantly worry. it scares me to even type this. Living daily with it is hard enough without the constant fears for his future sometimes I feel sick just thinking about him and his future.
Karla Pollock-Smith
our son is 10 and we think about it all of the time also. It is so hard to live in the moment when such big worries weigh on you daily. It is so difficult when there is no other adult who really spends time with him or who has a real relationship with except for us. Do others feel this way also? I sometimes feel like we are too picky in who we would “leave” him with…but it really is a difficult decision.
Alicia M Panayotakis
That is one of the biggest concerns I have. Who will take care of my son if something should happen to me or my husband? This is a parents worse nightmare, besides your child being special needs.
Karrie Kingsbury
This issue hits home with almost all Autistic Parents
I totally understand where you are coming from.
I have a 22 year old son with autism and I am so worried about what will happen when I can no longer take care of him.
I can not count on family to do it.
I myself have had to quit my job and stay home with him since he is too old to go to school.
He has started getting aggressive with me. (For the most part he is a very sweet young man)
I can no longer drive in a car with him because he has grabbed me and shook me while driving and I am scared I will have a wreck.
Sometimes I just feel so helpless.
There really isn’t any programs out there after they graduate High School.
By the way he is taking not being able to go back to school really hard.
He cries and throws fits, gets angry. He gets the phone book and points at the name of his old school over and over.
I feel awful for him. I know how badly he wants to go back and I can’t do anything about it.
Anyways just saw this site and article and thought I’d take time to vent.
Totally at a loss here.